I treat the divine in a way that is similar (but not identical) to how I regard any true teacher, whose instruction I might be under.
The gods have my respect, regardless of their methods; it would be stupid for anyone to disrespect a force stronger then yourself. While respect is given freely, veneration is not; who I worship and pray to is, by definition, sacred. I will not defile myself by showing to devotion to beings whose values I find abhorrent. I do not denounce them; I simply make it clear that their way it not mine.
I am in no position to make demands on the gods to provide me things, just as I am in no position to command an educator to teach me on a given subject If I am coming to them in their home, what right to I have to command such a thing? By the same token, I have no reason to grovel; any teacher, mortal or divine, that needs one to shame themselves is not a teacher I wish to be influenced by. Indeed, the opposite is also true. Ask yourself if any great educator has a place for soulless, spineless, weak-willed fools. Of course they don’t, and I don’t believe it to be any different with the divine. When they speak, they have my attention. If they ask for something, I give it freely as long as it is within my power to do so. When I am helped by their actions, I express my gratitude.
It is very simple, and I have found it very fulfilling.
To the best of my knowledge, I have no Fulltrui. This is a state of affair which I more or less hope endures, as I suspect it’s work I’m not cut out for. Don’t get me wrong; it’s a calling for which I have a great level of respect. I also have a great level respect for snipers, programmers, and wet nurses; I just don’t have the knack for those vocations.
However, I do not need a patron to venerate the divine, or to build up connections with it. Indeed, I would posit that there is something truly noble and worthwhile about making this connection when you have no god claim you as their own. You did not need to be found or saved; you came because you wanted to. Every moment you stay, and act with dignity and honor? Those are moments and connections built up with your own agency.
Sacredness is where you find it. I often can find it just like this.